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it happened last friday where my daughter was very upset when i fetch her from the day care center. she had lost her watch. she cried and said that someone had stolen her watch that she placed on the teacher’s table while she was practicing taekwondo.

i asked her how she felt. “i am very upset because i love the watch so much. i earned the watch by getting good results on my earlier exam… and the watch is expensive… it costs RM20. dad had to draw out money from a bank just to buy the watch. and now it’s lost… i’m sure dad will get mad at me…” yes… she loved the watch very much… she didn’t took it off even when she sleeps and bathes.

when i listened to her feelings… i was confuse and puzzled. i didn’t know how to advice her. it seems that now she knows the value of money. maybe RM20 is very much affordable for me… but to my daughter… it’s expensive… i didn’t know how to advice her… if i said something like…

“it’s ok… you didn’t lose it on purpose… it’s not your fault”… will she hold on to the phrase when ever she lost her things next time?? will she be saying to herself that it’s ok if i lost things as long as i didn’t do it on purpose…?? and of course i did not want to blame totally on her. it’s not fair.

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“the watch is only cost RM20… we can get another one for you”… will she be thinking that it’s ok to lost things??… we can always get a new one…

of all the confusion wandered in my head… finally i said… “if you love the watch so much, after your every prayer… ask from GOD to open up the heart who ever took your watch to give you back on monday…” then she asked… “what if he or she never gives back?”… “we’ll see… but you have to put effort on it first…”, i replied.

giving my hubby an upfront notice… i called him and explained what happened…

well… today is monday… we’ll see what happen…

think before you react

my hubby shared his reading material with me few weeks ago. it’s about how your reaction could affect your people around you and your mood throughout the day. the story goes like this…

one morning while the father was sitting down having breakfast with his son and daughter of below 5 years old. one of them accidentally spilled a cup of coffee on the father’s shirt. guess how the father could react? he could either…

A. get mad at his children. the kids start to cry loudly. the mother get to stop cooking to calm the children. the father run upstairs angrily and change his cloths. when he’s too overwhelm with his anger, he did not finish his breakfast and went to the car and rush off to office. on the way, he realized that he has forgotten his briefcase. he need to get back to get it because he has a very important meeting to chair and all the documents are in his briefcase. then, he’s late for his meeting. even the day at the office seems to went wrong. when he get home from work, he did not get any welcome party from his children. they were in their room trying to get away from their father’s sight.

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B. tell the kids that it’s ok to make mistakes. he went upstairs to change his cloths. went back down to finish his breakfast. then he kisses his wife and children good-bye, took his briefcase and went to office as usual. he’s Not late for a very important meeting. the meeting went well. when he’s home from work, his children welcome him with the sweetest smile and they had a very pleasant moment together that night.

see… your reaction Do affect people around you and your mood. so… think before you react to any circumstances.