Archive for October, 2010

Inside Out

we crawl before we walk

we learn arithmetic before algebra

we must fix ourselves before we can fix others

if you want to make a change in your life, the place to begin is yourself,

not with your parents, or your boyfriend/girlfriend, or your teacher

all change begins with you

it’s inside out

not outside in


quoted by Sean Covey from “7 Habits of Highly Effective Teenagers”

“The Leader In Me”

the book really gave me a great impact on how i see my life and on how i could mold my kids’ life. i strongly recommend you to read “The Leader In Me” by Stephen R. Covey.

the book is about a true life story of a school in USA who strive so hard in changing the student’s life from having social problems to kids who know their own responsibilities in life. it implemented the 7 habits introduced by the author. the 7 habits are:

  1. Be Proactive : Take responsibility for your life
  2. Begin with the End in Mind : Define your mission and goals in life
  3. Put first Things First : Prioritize, and do the most important things first
  4. Think Win-Win : Have an everyone -can-win attitude
  5. Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood : Listen to people sincerely
  6. Synergize : Work together to achieve more
  7. Sharpen the Saw : Renew yourself regularly

now, i’ve implemented the first habit to my daughter. be proactive..

one fine morning, she said to me… “mama, i’m proactive today. i made my bed without you telling me.” it’s a huge impact on me. however, since she’s still 8 years old and she only exposed this habit at home… i need to give her time to make sure the habit fills in her. i need to keep reminding her being proactive. however, i’m trying to find a better way to reward her for being proactive rather than just saying, “that’s great, honey!”

realized that there’s no other way to teach how life is until you experience yourself. different experience will generate a different lesson.

today, fetching my daughter from school have taught me a lesson that she is having her own life. she will learn lessons through her own experience.

my daughter was chosen for story telling competition and taking part in concert at her school. listen to her anxiousness, anxiety and excitement in her voice make me realize that she is on her own way to build her self-esteem and confidence. however, i did manage to advice her be humble in life…

still feeling happy, my daughter told the exciting news to her father while we are in the car driving back from our kids vital years session. she got totally different reaction from him. father asked her whether she remembered her promise if she wants to take part in any concerts at her school. actually, my hubby make my daughter to promise him that she needs to meet minimum of 5A’s in school to take part in any concert. i was totally forgotten about that. firmly, my hubby asked my daughter to tell her teacher tomorrow that she’s not allow to take part in school concert. Feeling mad and upset… my daughter emphasis that the teacher has chosen her, so she has to take part. the argument went on and on until i said, “you must obey your father”. and everybody was silent.

at home, my hubby explained that his intention was to make my daughter realize that she has failed to keep her promise.

and my point was… in future, our kids will need to seek for our permission and consent before doing anything.

sometimes life can be harsh on you.


sorry for not posting any new stories lately. now busy with work whereby needed to complete lots and lots of documents.

i’m reading a new book entitled “The Leader In Me”. will surely share with you once i have the chance.